Grief lives in the details

Issey Miyake Pleats Please poster by Syrup Cohen

When you talk to people who have lost someone close they eventually arrive at the point where it becomes the little things that make you miss them most.

Last week saw the coming and going of what would have been my mother’s 82nd birthday. It was a day of reflection and another day that I wished she was here to guide, to console and to make me laugh.

I have a cycle jacket that I love. It keeps me dry in the wet, protected from the wind and the extreme Canberra cold. It converts to a vest and it’s the most high viz yellow you can imagine. It has Issey Miyake style pleating across the shoulders that make it so easy to move in and whenever I wear it, which is practically every week, I want to call my Mum to tell her about this jacket. She would have loved the ingenuity of the design, she would have oohed and aahed over the pleats and she would probably have wanted to unpick all the seams to see how it was constructed.

Yes, I have spent another year without celebrating her birthday with her but it’s the details in that jacket that makes me momentarily forget that I can’t just call her.

It’s these little things that make me miss her the most.

Image above Pleats Please Issey Miyake 4 is copyright of Syrup Cohen – in case you didn’t know what Issey Miyake pleats look like. My Mum would have loved those colours.

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3 Responses to Grief lives in the details

  1. Margaret Hogan March 26, 2014 at 9:33 am #

    It would have been Dad’s 92nd birthday on Saturday – 5 years since we lost him, two since we lost Mum. I only said to Steve a couple of nights ago I’m going through a phase of missing them at the moment and wishing I could get on the phone 🙁 I think it’s tied in with the quiet of autumn.
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  2. Brandi April 5, 2014 at 3:01 pm #

    Oh, friend, I don’t know what to say except I’m so sorry.

  3. Marni April 17, 2014 at 6:33 am #

    I understand where you are coming from. My father passed away 4 years ago. It was his birthday 2 few weeks ago and I have been thinking about him a lot lately.. It’s these fleeting thoughts. Although I’ve been pushing them away so that I don’t go down that sad road.. I get where you are coming from. Side note. I had the PLEASURE of hearing Issey Miyake speak about pleats please when he was just launching it.. Can’t place where it was that I saw him. But I Love him!

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